You holding a grudge against someone is like cutting yourself and expecting someone else to bleed...the only person you are hurting is YOU!
They have gone on happily living their lives and you are spiking your blood pressure every time you hear their name...GET A GRIP!
No one should have that much power over you that isn't in the blessing and miracle business.
Matthew 5:44 "But I tell you: Love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you."
Live the life you want and deserve!